It’s like that, right?  One day you wake up and realize, you’re no longer on the fence.  You tried to save your marriage.  You tried to keep things together and imagined things improving … but it’s become clear  ... you want more.

Of course, you remember the good times, when your connection was rock solid.  Together you formed a family and that bond was the most important.

You long to get back to what you had when you first met.  That tingling sensation when you looked into each other’s eyes and the absolute need and desire to be affectionate with each other.  Happily ever after seemed real and attainable.

Yet now, can you remember the last time you felt that way?  You tried nearly everything to jumpstart what you thought was just a weak battery, but found the battery is dead, and no amount of juice is going to bring it back to life.

There’s no more sweet exchanges.  Our eyes no longer meet from across the room with a palpable surge of energy between us.

But, change is hard, so you tried the “let’s act like nothing’s wrong and just co-exist” approach, but found it left you feeling totally empty and lonely.  You know you can’t live that way forever and that you deserve much more.  You want to be loved, adored, appreciated. 

Things really started to go downhill when you began playing the blame game, which brought transitory moments of elation when you said those things you’ve been dying to say for years, but ultimately left you unfulfilled because saying those things just further drove the two of you apart. 

You’ve been on an emotional rollercoaster and you’re ready to get off … get divorced.

Sadly, your marriage has become empty, void.  Certainly, you could continue on like this, but you don’t want to.  You want more.